2024-10-21
想象一下一个派对，Sarah 和 John 玩得很开心，跳舞并交谈。他们似乎都对对方感兴趣。当晚上进行到一半时，他们独自一人跑到卧室里。John 开始亲吻 Sarah，而她回应也亲吻他。事情发展迅速，John 开始脱掉 Sarah 的衣服。
就在这时，Sarah 说：“我不太确定了。” 她试图推开 John，但他继续前进。Sarah 感到压力和害怕，所以保持沉默。后来，在跟朋友讲述这晚经历时，她说：“感觉不对劲，但我不想闹事。”
这个场景突显了一个关键点：同意不仅仅是拒绝“不”，它需要热烈的“同意”。
加拿大法律承认同意必须是自愿的、知情的和持续不断的，贯穿所有性活动中。让我们分解一下这意味着什么：
1. 自愿给出: 同意不能是被强迫或胁迫获得的。这包括来自身体力量、威胁、操纵、酒精或药物中毒的压力，或者任何情况下，个人感到无法说不而不会受到负面后果的情形。在我们的例子中，Sarah 的犹豫和试图推开 John 明确表明她并不舒服继续下去。
2. 知情: 同意需要对性活动的性质和程度有明确的了解。这意味着知道正在发生的事情并且能够做出关于它的知觉决定。
3. 持续进行: 同意不是一次性的协议。它必须在任何性互动过程中得到更新。如果某人随时改变主意，另一方必须立即停止。 在我们的例子中，Sarah 的最初回应并不构成持续同意，尤其是在她表达不舒服之后。
法律承认同意可以随时撤回，即使在互动过程中也是如此。沉默或被动行为不等于同意。
违反同意的后果是什么？
性侵犯是加拿大严重的罪行，其处罚严厉，包括监禁和登记为性犯罪者。
**请记住：**如果你认为自己或你认识的人遭受了性侵犯，有一些资源可以提供帮助：
理解同意对于促进尊重和安全的恋爱关系至关重要。让我们共同努力创造一个每个人都能自信地说“是”或“不”，并且没有恐惧的社会。
## "Yes Means Yes": Understanding Consent in Canadian Sexual Assault Law
| Feature | Description | Example from the Story | Legal Implication |
|---|---|---|---|
| Voluntariness | Consent must be freely given, without pressure, coercion, or threats. | Sarah hesitated and tried to push John away when he started removing her clothes. | This indicates Sarah was not consenting freely and felt pressured. |
| Knowledge | Consent requires a clear understanding of the nature and extent of the sexual activity. | Sarah might not have been fully aware of the potential consequences of continuing with John. | It's crucial for all parties to understand what is happening and be able to make informed decisions. |
| Ongoing Consent | Consent must be continuously given throughout a sexual encounter. A person can withdraw consent at any time. | Sarah initially responded positively but later expressed discomfort. | Even if there was initial agreement, John should have stopped when Sarah indicated she no longer consented. |
| Silence or Passivity ≠ Consent | Not saying "no" does not automatically mean "yes." | Sarah's silence while feeling pressured doesn't constitute consent. | It's essential to clearly communicate consent verbally and non-verbally throughout the interaction. |
Consequences of Violating Consent:
Resources for Support:
Remember:
Understanding consent is crucial for building respectful and safe relationships. Let's work together to create a society where everyone feels confident saying "yes" or "no" without fear.
